Morocco is a land rich in tradition, much reflected in their wedding rituals and celebrations. It is also very popular as a wedding destination; often, contemporary customs have melded into this exotic place. Each region reflects their own particular customs and these too differ between families. The elaborate events can take place over three to seven days depending on the traditions the couple wish to include. A wonderful mix of colourful gowns, sparkling jewels, loud music, dancing and laughter is absolutely guaranteed.
These days, young people often choose their own partner but still wish to have the blessing of their families for this all important decision. There will be a number of pre wedding events – the ‘furnishing party’ will include household gifts to fill the bride’s new home, this is mainly attended by women.
The bride and her close female friends and family will pay a visit to the hammam. Women called ‘negaffa’ assist in this ritual bathing and when it comes time to dress the bride, they will be there to help her with all her outfit changes.
Following this the ladies will enjoy their henna party and have their hands and feet decorated with intricate patterns, these designs are thought to bring good luck and fertility, sometimes the groom’s name is hidden into the pattern on the bride.
In earlier times there were separate parties for men and woman – after some time celebrating the groom, dressed in a traditional ‘djellaba’, together with his guests would come in a noisy car procession to the bride’s party, accompanied by drummers to announce his arrival. In modern times the celebration is combined during which the bride has many changes of dress. The ‘negaffa’ (usually older married women) are there to assist and also to be present at the exchange of rings and vows.
There will be a green dress, a white jewelled kaftan and others of vibrant colours. ‘Takchita’ is a layered dress with the outer overdress being heavily decorated; each outfit has a matching set of jewellery.
The grand finale is when the bride sitting on a large decorated chair called an ‘amariya’ is carried by four men to the festivities. She is wearing the traditional headdress called the ‘fassia’. The groom will greet her and lift her headdress and they will both sit and wait to greet their guests and have photos taken.
Then the partying really starts and a delicious feast awaits the guests, there will be food in abundance because of course no one is really sure how many guests will arrive. Delicacies served are tarjine, couscous, pastille and lots of Moroccan dishes. There is music, dancing and entertainment well into the early hours.
There will be another dress change for the bride and now perhaps they will depart for their hotel or in times past escorted to the bridal chamber if celebrating at the groom’s house.
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Article written by Helen Schrader
Helen Schrader is an Australian registered Civil Marriage Celebrant residing in the United Arab Emirates. Ms Schrader assists couples of various cultural backgrounds wishing to celebrate their marriages in the UAE and beyond by conducting their ceremonies, guiding them through the marriage process and honouring their individual wedding day visions and traditions.